Copycat Kid

A Mom blog

This morning I caught Rae trying to put my contact lens in her eye. She was blinking repeatedly, tears streaming down her face, looking at the little clear lens that just would NOT stay in! I said, “Whacha doin’ Rae?” Her reply: “Just puttin’ in my contacts, Mom.”
I said, “You don’t wear contacts, honey. You have good eyes–not like Mommy.”
That answer seemed to make sense, so she said simply, “Oh.”
(Luckily, the lens was not damaged and after a good cleaning, I put it in MY eye!)
Rae copies everything I do. If you keep up with the blog, you know that she recently wore a maxi pad (see “I’m so not Ready for Puberty“) but she’s also recently tried to get dinner out of the oven (using oven mitts, of course), get the baby out of her crib, drink my coffee, pour milk on her cereal, and put on my deodorant. She also has to copy whatever I’m wearing. If I have on “exercise” clothes, she’ll go put on a tank top and sweatpants. If I put on jeans and a long-sleeve shirt to start the day, she’ll look down at her pjs and run to change into…jeans and a long-sleeve shirt.
She also tries to emulate me in conversation. She’s recently started asking everyone “How are you doing?” And when daddy gets home she always asks, “How was work, daddy?”
I know that she watches me. I know that she tries to be like me. But I have so many fears that I won’t measure up. I desperately want to be a woman she looks up to, a woman who’s worthy of her respect. I want to be a velvet-over-steel, wisdom-filled, gracious beacon of love for my two beautiful girls. I can only pray that as they follow me and copy my hand gestures, and my interactions, that they’ll also learn to emulate my heart. I hope they can overlook my temper, my OCD habits, my quick tongue, and my fear of bugs, and instead, acquire my love for the Lord, my thirst for truth, and my heart for others. And if they happen to copy my fashion sense, well–I’m sure they’ll end up wearing contacts of their own.


3 thoughts on “Copycat Kid

  1. This is so true. Kids will try to find their identity through one or both of their parents. Sometimes this is a good thing and sometimes it is not.

    Kids are like microphones. Our sin is spoken into the microphone and amplified through them. As they grow, you see their attitudes and shortcomings. If you humbly pay attention, you can see where they came from in YOU (and/or your husband, or other close friends and family). If you approach them in humility and address their attitudes, taking part of the responsibility upon yourself, everyone benefits and God can receive the glory:
    “I see that you _______________. It seems that you may have gotten that from me, because I tend to act that way as well. Unfortunately, Daddy makes a lot of mistakes. When I make that mistake like you did, I have to go to God in prayer to tell Him. I also ask Him to change me so that I would be more like Him and not make mistakes of that sort.”

    It is so important that we be humble with our kids. It is no good to be their hero if we don’t admit to our weaknesses. My $.02

    Thanks for sharing…

  2. I agree with Phil as well as you, Shannon. I hope they pick up more of my good than my bad. I always explain that I’m working on my mistakes and that we shouldn’t look to me, dad, or TV for advice but back to the source, God, and his word the Bible. We should always compare what we do (them and me) back to the standard of the Bible and ask God to help us improve.

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